A student (perhaps one of my advisees, but I have no recollection of this) at my school died in a car accident on Friday (actually 2 students died, but I only know one). I'm feeling that I should be having more of a response than I am (as it happens, I am much more upset by Valancy Jane's miscarriage, and I've never met Valancy Jane and she lives in California and the miscarriage happened 2 weeks ago). It could be that it just hasn't hit me yet (I did swear I saw the student in lab this afternoon), it could be that I am just a cold person, but it's most likely that this is something that really doesn't affect me directly. My question is, has this happened to anyone else? and do you have advice for what I do when around people who are affected directly? (i.e. while I had the student in one 80 person class Spring 2008, another professor had her in two classes last semester and 2 classes this semester. Most of my majors know her and lots were friends or class mates). I'll go to the on-campus memorial service, I'll send a note to her parents, but what do I do with/for other professors or students?
3 weeks ago