Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Reunions

How many of us have been to high school reunions?

My 20th is in a few weeks (and I will be moving to Oklahoma rather than attending it) and I'm oddly sad about not going, although I think that going would definitely depress me. I'm in contact with two of my three best high school friends, and will be seeing both in July, the requited-but-timing-never-worked love of high school, who I will also see in July, and my wonderful gay high school ex., who is in Turkey. So I have really no idea who I think I'm missing by not going.

The first night of my tenth was enjoyable, if unexciting (I was a big time people watcher in a class of 800. At the reunion, I saw people and knew lots of stories about them, but they didn't know me, and I didn't have anyone to share stories with). I broke my ankle and didn't attend the main night (and thus missed the big confrontation with my ex best friend).

What are other knitters' reunion experiences and thoughts?

9 comments:

Sparkling Squirrel said...

Aack! I just googled my ex-best friend, and, for the first time, I actually found her. There is someone with her name who is a prof. at Fort Hays State, which I liked much better, than actually seeing a great photo of her and seeing that she is "friends" (of the facebook sort) with our other good friend of elementary school (who was too cool for us by 5th grade and looks beautiful and happy and who I'd love to see at the reunion).
Now I'm wanting to both go to the reunion and get on facebook. Alas.

Irene said...

I didn't go to the 10th - I heard about several informal (unofficial?) reunions but if there was a big official one, word of it did not reach me. I know what a lot of my classmates are up to (sort of) via Facebook, but I've only really "reconnected" with one that way.

Cheryl said...

I haven't been to a reunion yet and have debated about going - my 10th didn't work out with other things I had going on. I know when my Dad started going to his reunions (starting at the 25th) he had a really good time. Reason being that at this point in peoples lives he felt that there wasn't as much 'sizing each other up' and people were just who they were, and that was okay. It could also make a difference that his high school class consisted of maybe 20 people, so everyone knows everybody else.

Jennifer said...

I haven't been to any of mine yet. Maybe I will go next year to my 20th. Hard to say.

salsis said...

I went to my 10 yr. (which was held the 11th yr., shows how important it was to everyone...) It was fun to hang out with the 2 friends that I still see at xmas (my best friend couldn't make it). It showed me I won't be missing anything by missing my 20th. One of the class officers just last week posted a message on facebook asking people if they want to have it during homecoming, or during a Steelers homegame. I did go to an informal gathering at a local bar a couple years ago. I talked to more people at that than at the 10 yr. Facebook is good for seeing pics of classmates and finding out what they are up. Perhaps it would be better to find out such things in person! At my 10 yr I found out from several people of my class and other years that my class was one of the snobbiest and clickiest. So maybe with another group of people I'd be more likely to want to see them.

salsis said...

Agh just lost 15 minutes of my life looking at the 20-yr reunion wall on facebook then clicking on people that I never talked to then or since then.

Sparkling Squirrel said...

The Mister is trying to convince me that what I want to do can be done by facebook, but I don't think so. One person on facebook was working for a cool Utah ecological organization. In person I think it would be interesting to talk to her about it-- on facebook it would just be silly since I never spoke with her in high school. And my ex-best friend can't see me and miss me on facebook.
As far as what people are up to, no one who knew me well in high school is the least bit surprised by what I am doing, and nobody else really knew of me [I was the first person in ten years from my very large thought it was superior* high school to win a prestigious scholarship and I had fellow students actually asking "why you?" to my face].

In any case, I'm not going. But sorta wish I were.
*Working in education I realize that academically, my high school really was superior.

salsis said...

Wow, facebook and other social media has really changed how people interact. I miss Haiti where everyone hangs out outside and talks. In person.

Beth said...

I missed mine but just had my 10 year college reunion which was lots of fun. But I heard from friends who went to the 10th HS and said it was worth going. I'm going to try to make the 20th for HS assuming it's not the standard graduation weekend. I went to the 5th HS reunion and it was interesting - I was in a small class so saw lots of people that I knew. However, FB is not the same as in person since it's not very personal.